It's completely unrelated to my empty nest. But since I've not done well keeping up, I've decided to vent about something close to my heart.
Do all men suck?
It seems like a simple question. Of course not all men suck. But it's hard to find out when they don't exactly.
Even as a mom of an adult child, and a new grandma, I still worry about my daughter and her happiness. I suppose that's natural. I want the best for her. I want her man to love and respect her completely. I would hope it's not too much to ask.
Sneaky mom type moment, I have access to my son-in-law's email. Not my idea. They passed down a laptop and never logged out. I try to ignore it. Keep it closed. But notices pop up. One popped up from Apple. I know they've had some strange charges, so I was tempted to look. I was shocked to see that it was about his Tinder subscription.
I can't think of a valid reason for a married man to have a Tinder. I want to think that it's because he has a practical joking personality so maybe he did it to catfish or pick on one of his friends. But I worry. He has stopped wearing his ring and this has worried my daughter. I have never doubted that he loved her, until now. He always talked down about cheaters but now I wonder if that's become easy for him.
So now what? I can't say anything, not without actual proof. I have worries, concerns, suspicions even but no proof. According to his phone records, he has been calling or texting a few women that I've never heard of but still no concrete proof. Don't ask how I know these things. I've been a super spy mom for a while. I have my ways.
I don't want him to be a suck man. I really don't. As far as mother-in-laws go, I've always considered myself on the high end of the scale. I am very supportive, always have been. I'm pretty sure when he was away at basic, I wrote him almost as much as my daughter and way more than his family ever did. He lived with us and I cared for him as family before that time too.
We were close. Now, I'm not sure. He wavers. Sometimes it seems like old times, sometimes not so much. Either way, I don't want to see my daughter and granddaughter hurt.
In case a suck man is reading this, Don't be that man. Don't disrespect your wife, the mother of your child. Don't play the field, joke about other women or even watch porn. I know that's an extreme ask but your wife, your life deserves more than that from you. You don't have to suck.
