Respect

Once again, I find myself doubting my son-in-law's intentions in life. My inner mama bear wants to rip him completely apart. I have never appreciated it when anyone slighted my daughter. I certainly don't appreciate it when it's her husband, even though I know they're both grown ups.

I still have access to his email. He has recently started talking to an old "friend" from high school, a female friend. Turns out, he bought this friend and himself matching bracelets, with a note that says "You'll always be my best friend. I'll pick mine up in person <3". What the fuck?

I could almost excuse that. He was drinking when he ordered it. These things usually tend to take place at night. Nothing good happens after 11, especially when alone with Jack.

I had not told my daughter yet. I didn't want to spoil my upper hand yet. Then I snooped again. This time I found 2 emails he sent to her, both links to ultrasound training schools. On one the emails, after the link, he wrote I love you. That was too much to see. So I told my daughter.

She hasn't reacted yet. Not wholly. I'm sure she will. At this time, he was in the next room and she was playing with their baby.

These past two weeks have been weird. He has spent time snapchatting this girl, right next to my daughter. He has texted her occasionally. He even has had a few long phone calls with her. Whenever my daughter brings these things up, he brushes it off. He has in the past used the double standard card. He can do whatever he wants but she's not allowed to talk to any old male friends, even those long time friend zone friends.

I hate that this seems to be the path he is going down. They are young, but I want them to be good. She has become such an amazing wife and mom. She deserves respect and love. It's time for the fuck boy she married to become a real man.

My odd birthday present...

My birthday was March 15. I turned 47 and the week before had starting thinking of big plans. I tend to think of birthdays as like a New Year's redo. It's an easy to start off point to make improvements for the next year. This year I got a completely unexpected and unwanted gift - a pandemic!
This past weekend is when the reality of the COVID 19 pandemic started to sink in for Americans. We seem to think of ourselves as separate and have that 'it won't happen here attitude'. Well, it's here. It's everywhere.
It is a very strange feeling. I know most are feeling the same way. It's a little lost, a little overwhelmed, a little depressing. Life seems to change daily now. Stores close earlier, and that's the one's staying open. Restaurants are encouraging people to get take out or delivery, some closing their dining rooms completely. DisneyWorld has closed temporarily and that never happens. Stores are filled with empty shelves (toilet paper and meat seem very popular).
It feels like it will last forever. It feels like a new normal that no one wanted. All those events I marked as interested in on Facebook - canceled or rescheduled. So much for a new year of adventure.
This should be a time of working on ourselves, and I suppose that will happen for me when I adapt. I guess we can think of this event as that mystical someday we always talk about - someday I'll learn to crochet, someday I'll do puzzles, someday I'll finish a book again. Right now, I'm just adapting.
I also have to adapt to wondering when I'll see my daughter and granddaughter again. They are stationed at an army base right now (not too far away) but travel is discouraged or completely off limits depending on the day. It could always be worse, I know. It's just one more thing to mind-shift about at the moment.
I hope this passes quickly. I'm sorry for those who have been diagnosed with COVID 19, and especially for those who have passed away due to this highly contagious virus. At least it doesn't seem like the zombie apocalypse I've always secretly worried would become real. At least not yet!